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Namaste from Kathmandu, Nepal. Boudhanath. |
It didn't start well. Alistair, deathly white and drenched with sweat, was on the verge of fainting.
The stifling plane showed no signs of departing the Kathmandu airstrip for Pokhara - why waste air conditioning on sitting on the tarmac, even if it were one of the city's hottest days? Alistair had been afflicted with the dreaded "Kathmandu quickstep" the day before – an experience he'd rather forget – and the airless wait threatened to overcome him. The crackle of an accented announcement sent us back across the blazing tarmac to the terminal to wait for the weather to improve in Pokhara. Alistair staggered along and slumped across the row of seats. A concerned ama took his shoes off; another produced damp towels and proceeded to wipe down his face and limbs. Lhapka, our Sherpa assistant, fanned him furiously with a discarded newspaper. Three airport officials turned up to see what the fuss was about.
The roots of this adventure were decades deep. I had trekked for a month in Nepal more than 20 years ago, a transformational experience that shaped my worldview and ushered in true adulthood, had yearned to return. But life got in the way as it does – babies, mortgage, job – the usual anchors. When Tenaya, my older daughter, arranged to do a service project for her Girl Scout Gold award at a Women's Center in Kathmandu, there was no question of not accompanying her. In fact, why not bring the entire family and extend the trip to include a week of exploring? Could a trek also be transformative for the entire family, one of those much vaunted "bonding experiences" the subject of many a sappy Disney movie? I had my doubts. The teen years had been fraught with conflict, as they often are. Upbeat Facebook posts failed to convey the reality, as they often do, of the tenuous bridge between teen and parent. Furthermore, my daughters were reluctant to walk anywhere, let alone up and down mountains for days, possibly in monsoon rains. A bribe would be required. I hoped a couple of nights of luxury in the resort town of Pokhara ("spa" was bandied about casually) followed by two days of white-water rafting would suffice to buy forgiveness, if not earn bonding.
With Alistair revived, our party eventually boarded the aircraft (stopping to allow other passengers to take the necessary pre-flight selfies) which took off for a cloudy flight to Pokhara. With us was our guide, Ang Gelu, and his assistant, Lhakpa. Ang Gelu came from Pangkoma, a small village in the Solu Khumbu that I had visited on my first trip. On that trek, Lhakpa's father, Ngima Dorje had been our sirdar, and my brother and I had been accompanying my parents. Now Lhakpa was leading, and my daughters were accompanying Alistair and I, the trek organised by Ngima's company, Nepal Myths and Mountain Trails.
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Lhakpa (centre left) and Ang Gelu (centre right) flanked by our two porters |
In Pokhara, a couple of young Sherpa boys were waiting to be our porters and our party of 8 boarded a van which bumped its way up the collection of potholes loosely linked by the occasional pavement that passed as the road, swerving to avoid cows, swarms of motorcyclists, and oncoming brightly painted trucks on the wrong side of the road, with a liberal use of the horn. In other words, a perfectly normal Nepali drive.
We abruptly stopped at a seemingly random spot up a valley on the side of the dirt road. Steep lush hillsides rose up into the clouds. There was an inauspicious, ratty looking 'restaurant' and not much else....apart from a set of stone steps disappearing up into the jungle. This was apparently Phedi, the trailhead location. The girls peered up the stairs with a mixture of suspicion and dread. They were about to learn the meaning of 'Nepali up'! And so began the trek proper under misty skies.
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Looking down on the road and Phedi |
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Our first taste of Nepali up. |
It was an odd parade. The two teen porters bounded away out front laden with bags carried on a tumpline on their heads, eager to reach the next rest stop to check their phones. The two teen clients trudged upwards, one silently and the other voicing her displeasure at the directness of the ascent. Ang Gelu led the main group, pacing along stoically, an Everest climbing sherpa massively overqualified for this small venture. Keeping up with him was Alistair who seemed revived by the challenge. I followed along in between and Lhapka brought up the rear, being assigned the job of tail-end Charlie.
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The telltale signs of a leech bite - bloody socks |
The mist turned to a light, cooling and not entirely unwelcome drizzle. As we paused for a rest at the top of the steepest ascent, Lhakpa casually mentioned that we should look out for leeches, but not to worry as they were usually higher up. Leeches??? The girls now looked alarmed as well as hot and tired. Finally nearing the crest of the ridge, we sat to rest again out of the now light rain. Lhakpa suggested that we check our ankles for the little bloodsuckers. I glanced down, saw a large black blob on my ankle, and picked it off with a shriek. Blood trickled down into my sock. The rest of the family gasped, then a commotion erupted as everyone discovered they'd been bitten. Shoes were discarded in a hurry to discover the tell-tale bloody patches on socks. The bites were painless and caused no itchy welt; the only inconvenience was the effect of the powerful anti-coagulant which ensured a steady trickle of blood for an extended time (our socks ran red for ages when we tried to rinse them off in the evening). But it was the very thought of the little bastards that was repulsive.
It was the last straw for Tenaya. She had just finished her final grueling year at high school and graduated just days before departing for Nepal with little chance for a break. En route via Singapore she has picked up a nasty virus and had had a feverish traumatic arrival into Kathmandu with blocked ears and the aircraft in an extended holding pattern before landing. Her week in a homestay in a developing (read: non-touristy) suburb of Kathmandu as part of her Girl Scout project was challenging: jetlag, strange meals at strange hours, record Kathmandu heat, traditional beds, the clamour of the neighbourhood still under construction, a continuously griping digestive system, and an unsettling feeling of uncertainty about daily plans which were apt to change at the last minute. Our hosts offered us their finest warm hospitality and did their utmost to graciously accommodate the family. It was just a huge change for a California teen used to a structured, predictable and sanitised Western life. By the end of the week, we had decided our song of the trip was "100 Bad Days Make 100 Good Stories (100 Good Stories Make You Interesting at Parties" by AJR. Our favourite saying was "There has been a little bit change of plan". And the t-shirt of the trip was "Dal Bhat power, 24 hour" in honour of the traditional twice daily Nepali meal of white rice, dal (lentil soup) and veggies. We all could laugh about those later...but at that moment in the trail, enough was enough. Tears flowed amid panicked sobs. It started to rain harder.
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View from our homestay in a developing suburb of Kathmandu |
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Homestay bed |
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Dal bhat power, 24 hour |
Along the ridgetop, the way became less steep as we wound through villages and terraces being ploughed by water buffalo and planted with rice.
We stopped for lunch at a teahouse with views of the hills swirling in and out of the clouds. Warm food and the resident cat provided physical and mental sustenance before the walk continued ever upwards.
Mid-afternoon, a sign saying "Pothana- 25 min" perked us up as this was our destination for the evening. Alas, this must have been for the locals, as we climbed through forest for the best part of an hour before reaching the village perched on the ridge.
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Amazing - some downhill! Accompanied by one of our canine companions |
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There must be mountains somewhere in the clouds,,,
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In April, peak trekking season, this would have been a busy hub with expansive views of the Annapurna Range. In late June, we were the only customers in town, damp and bedraggled, and had to content ourselves with a faded poster of the glorious panorama as the rain beat its ever harder rhythm on the tin roof.
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Arriving in Pothana |
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We had to imagine this! |
Our accommodation was in a pair of basic rooms on the top floor with two simple bed platforms apiece furnished with a foam mattress and heavy duvet blanket, and a bald electric light. The loo was down the end of the building and was a sit-down flush variety. The plain wooden floor did little to muffle the sounds of the sherpas and the inevitable lodge dog below. I was rapt - this far exceeded expectations based on my experience 20 years prior! Down in the dining hall, one of our porters had found an outlet to charge his phone in and was busy watching a movie. The lodge had Wifi, but only when it wasn't raining, so we were out of luck - or perhaps in luck. Throughout the trek, I had difficulty reconciling my desire to recreate my previous trek experience - the month in which we left roads behind and in which the only communication with the outside world was a two-minute phone call to Alistair from the single phone in the region - with the current reality. Like in the west, phones and wifi were ubiquitous and just as addictive. The ultimate for me was the sight of some girls tending their herd of goats on the side of a steep trail...glued to their screens.
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Spot the phones...and the goats! |
Roads now snaked into these villages, bulldozed out of the hillsides, perched precariously on the steep slopes and at constant risk of washouts and landslides.
I struggled to find the charm in this connected world at the same time as recognising the progress that these links represented to the local people.
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Dining hall at Pothana |
That evening after dinner, we lingered in the dining hall chatting to Ang Gelu and Lhakpa. Ang Ghelu had worked on Everest as a climbing sherpa for a number of years, working his way up the ranks. In 2015, he was caught in the massive earthquake-triggered landslide that swept through Everest base camp, killing at least 22 people. He survived but spent 3 months in hospital with an injured back. Since then, he had returned and summited twice. I asked him what his motivation for returning after a near-death experience was - was it just the money, or did he love what he did? Both, it seemed. Despite the extraordinarily high risks and poor treatment - he bemoaned the terrible food provided to the sherpas - these kept him coming back each year. Lhakpa described how seeing the bodies of 14 Sherpas killed on the mountain had him retching, and the huge impact that the loss of these climbers had on their close-knit communities - wives left without husbands, children without fathers. It was a sobering and thought-provoking discussion. Should these levels of risk imposed on the sherpa staff be unacceptable to visiting mountaineers? At what price the summit? How much responsibility lay with the Nepalese government for failing to set limits on the numbers of climbers and therefore creating even more hazardous conditions? Permits provided significant income to a country hugely dependent on tourism. Like for many things in Nepal, there were no easy answers.
